Most Muslims I know ( and there are a LOT in New York ) live in cognitive dissonance.
They IGNORE the violent verses and emphasize the peaceful ones.
If they cannot ignore it, they RE-INTERPRET the violent once to either mean: A) That it is only applicable to a bygone era; or B) That those are only for DEFENSIVE purposes.
or B) That those are only for DEFENSIVE purposes.
It must be remembered that in the mind of the Moslem, they are in a defensive war, dar al harb, as any area of the world that refuses to submit is de facto at war against Allah and his prophet.