No, they are independent of each other in the sense that it is between the individual and Lord, not between each other. The wife honors the husband as unto the Lord. The husband loves his wife and gives himself to her, as Christ did the church.
But the big issue today, which is almost totally ignored and/or avoided is the problem with women. For a long time now, popular culture has castigated manhood and perverted womanhood to compete with men. This is Satan’s work and is nothing new - it is exactly what he did in the Garden. First he deceived the woman, and then the man went along with it.
That is one reason why the word goes first to the wife. The woman is the heartbeat of the home. She holds the key. If she doesn’t surrender to and honor her husband as to the Lord, the husband, sooner or later will resent it. He can love her heroically by God’s grace, but there will definitely be an emptiness there. A lot of guys just give up at some point. It is sad but true. I’m not saying guys don’t have their issues (porn, etc.) but that is often the only focus in marriage seminars, etc. and is really not the key issue in today’s marriage, family, or society.
It seems no one wants to risk the kind of unpopularity and contempt they will receive if they actually began to tell women their true place, position, and DISPOSITION in the home, which is exactly where they will be the happiest, most fulfilled they can possibly be as a married woman. Economic need is not the point here. It is a heart issue and is a very big deal.
There’s some blame shifting right there.
It’s all the women’s fault????
If men are castigated, then who let them be?
Is there not a man around who can say “No” to that, or are they just going to go around blaming others for letting it happen to themselves?
I see the problem right there.
Those that do, don't understand the God given instruction we referenced earlier.