I would argue that we are not obligated to always be “kind and respectful.” Insert another offense: Terrorism, rape, murder, deceitfulness, embezzlement, ....on and on. There are crimes/sins that no one deems worthy of respect. Personally I do not respect homosexuality in the least. I especially do not respect those who push the idea as good onto school children. In order to voice opposition, I am sure they would label me unkind. I label them unkind and disrespectful of God and His creation, and of children and humanity and biology.
Christians need to get over their “be kind” disarmament and find a way to make solid statements/arguments effectively again. The world was looking to us on this issue. Once we laid down our arms with flowery “I love them” statements, the issue was lost. Frankly, I don’t respect that mushy stuff when real lives are being affected. I do not see my position as inconsistent with a Christian mind and heart.
Sometimes we must be strong.
Many people use that argument to be mean and hurtful to people they disapprove of. In the end that behavior most often does more to damage a situation than to help. Kind and respectful does not mean approving their behavior. Nor does it mean you can’t defend yourself if attacked.
Jesus died for their sins as well as yours & mine.