I assure you a cold one is a poor recourse when dealing with eternal matters. When a person on a public forum which is being used to promote an elitist church posts a public positive comment regarding conversion to it, and is thus asked a couple relevant questions, but avoids answering them by misconstruing this as being about having to submit to others.
And then resorts to mind-reading and fallacious unsubstantiated charges in response to a reasonable reply, then what you term "pestering posts," in calling her to account, is warranted.
If you don’t get an answer to your question after one or two tries, then you must accept ‘no answer’ as the answer. Continuing to ask is badgering, a form of ‘making it personal.’