If the conversion of anyone depended on our behavior no one would ever be saved, because we are all sinners .... remember what Jesus said ""No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws them, and I will raise them up at the last day."...The drawing is the work of the Father ..bust as the saving is the work of the Son ..
Too many think the music in the church, or a "hip" pastor in jeans or works of charity will draw people to Christ ....nope that is a work of God..not a work of men
People get saved in spite of us not because of us.
Thank God the Holy Spirit in us is what does it.