“I was in a loving, healthy, great relationship for four years. It was long distance, and either your boyfriend is going to look at porn or he’s going to look at you” (emphasis added).
“I could be wrong but I think men looking at porn is just in anticipation of hooking up with what they really want which is sex with exotic women, but don`t know how to go about it.”
Or maybe they want their wives to be exotic, but don’t know how to ask? Is that what you meant?