No, I read your prior posts and am afraid you are giving bad advice. Sometimes “loving” your child is harder than making them “feel loved”. Don’t coddle your gay children at the expense of other, innocent, family members.
Little kids are far more perceptive then most people give them credit for. Like I said if the kid and grand kids are in a close proximity to each other on a regular basis. Chances are the grand kids already know that the aunt or uncle is not quite right whether they know how to express it or not.
Of course if it's you kid you can proceed the way you see fit. I said how I would most likely handle it. I don't like to make something more of a "thing" then is necessary. Some people build up in their mind what another reaction is going to be. When that expectation is not realized, things become different.