“That sadly is most usually the case, yet it is also true in many Prot churches.”
That man just blurted those words out to me in a mean, angry voice. He never had me sit down and asked me “why?”. Think about it, a kid wants to leave the place and the pastor does not think to ask “why?”. By saying those words to me, they way he said them, he might as well have looked at me said “get the ____ out” and pointed to the door. That is how I took it. I knew where I was not wanted.
You see that youth pastor was young, immature, inexperienced and even my parents later said was not who they would have chosen for youth pastor, but no use in crying over spilled mitocondria.
Got it. The context and attitude helps.