It's not.
My theory is that the real source of anti-porn sentiments are that:
Wives feel like they have to work at being better in bed when they would rather not. Also they have to pay more attention to their appearance.
WRONG!!!!!
How would MEN like being compared to some handsome movie star and being told that they are coming up short?
And based on what I see walking on the streets in general, I don't see a lot of men who seem to care much about THEIR appearance?
Sex is a lever of control for women over men, especially wives over their husbands and porn neutralizes that control.
Not necessarily so. I know that some women do use it as such, but a woman who's husband is meeting her emotional needs isn't going to have that problem.
Porn is a male expression of sexual desire, where romance novels and the lifetime channel are female expressions: feminists condemn male sexuality while embracing the female desires.
Sadly true. The thing that so many seem to not realize is that for women sex is more about emotional fulfillment than physical fulfillment. Women will get that from romance novels. That's why they are so popular over simply viewing sex.
Either way, it short changes relationship and puts unrealistic expectations on BOTH parties. Women for not looking or acting like a porn star, and men for not acting like the romancer in the novels or soap stories.
The church has not recovered from a thousand years of tepidly condemning sex and veneration of celibacy creating a guilt complex over real intimacy.
I have to agree but you'll be hearing about it from some who still think that way.
Porn is like the term abuse, it has no fixed meaning so that discontent wives can always have something to feel offend and threatened about and therefor can maintain their life of drama.
If men are getting their sexual fulfillment from someone or something besides their wives, those woman have a legitimate reason to feel offended and threatened.
Pron destroys relationships.
It's the mans job to be the provider and protector of the family and if he abdicates that role, he has no one to blame but himself for the consequences.
A woman's self-esteem is often tied to how her husband views her as being attractive and desirable and if he's sending her signals that she's not, by viewing porn, then he is not providing for her needs nor protecting their marriage.
Substitute handsome for power, money, bad boy tingles, and status and your comparison crumbles.
...a woman who's husband is meeting her emotional needs isn't going to have that problem.
But if a woman meets her husbands sexual needs he wont have that problem... 1 Cor 7:5 & 9.
What if men refused to go to work when their "needs" have not been met like women are told to not have sex with husbands when their "needs" have not been met? Other foot meet the shoe!
The thing that so many seem to not realize is that for women sex is more about emotional fulfillment than physical fulfillment...
By emotional fulfillment I think you mean to say her own selfish reasons on her terms. BTW to imply that through physical fulfillment is somehow separate and apart from emotional is a cavil and compartmentalization that denies the design of God for sex.
A woman's self-esteem is often tied to how her husband views her as being attractive and desirable and if he's sending her signals that she's not, by viewing porn, then he is not providing for her needs nor protecting their marriage.
A man's self esteem is often ties to how his wife views him as as being attractive and desirable and if he's sending him signals that is not, by defrauding in bed or sandbagging through effortless sex, then she is not providing for his needs not protecting their marriage.
You think porn destroys relationships. Here is the 100 proof truth if you can handle it: feminism kills marriages and drives men to use porn.
“It’s the mans job to be the provider and protector of the family “
And not just his but other families as well. Taking advantage of someone, for any reason, is simply not moral or the manly thing to do.