The interesting distinction is that the “gay marriage” got the issue brought to a head.
The old way was for a church council, board of elders or other governing body to look at the individual. Individuals are not homosexual, their actions are or are not.
As a sinner, I worship with many other sinners. I don’t expect my fellow worshipers to be without sin but to repent in the form under their condition of membership and attendance.
I knew a fine fellow, very conservative, that went to bat to retain a music director who was a homosexual according to some. This musician was a very properly behaved member, and no actions or behavior had ever been publically displayed — he lived alone and his character was above reproach in all other matters. I admired his actions for an employee then, and I still do today. The employee had no ministerial duties, played the music in church and led the choir for a pittance.
These people, when their actions are sinfull, are at war with God. We have to always be ready to help them turn away from sin and homosexual “marriage” commits them to a life of sin.
That’s good. We’re all sinners, the question is whether you are fighting against that sin . . . or have convinced yourself that it’s actually NOT a sin.