“anyone who is going to try to force the tongues speaking issue on me is going to get an earful”
Speaking in tongues is between you and the Holy Spirit. He is the giver of gifts. (Do not grieve the Holy Spirit.)
Nowhere are we commanded to seek after that gift, not everyone has it, and it's the least of all the gifts.
1 Corinthians 12:11 All these are empowered by one and the same Spirit, who apportions to each one individually as he wills.
1 Corinthians 14:1-5 Pursue love, and earnestly desire the spiritual gifts, especially that you may prophesy. For one who speaks in a tongue speaks not to men but to God; for no one understands him, but he utters mysteries in the Spirit. On the other hand, the one who prophesies speaks to people for their upbuilding and encouragement and consolation. The one who speaks in a tongue builds up himself, but the one who prophesies builds up the church. Now I want you all to speak in tongues, but even more to prophesy. The one who prophesies is greater than the one who speaks in tongues, unless someone interprets, so that the church may be built up.
Nor are tongues a sign for believers but unbelievers.
1 Corinthians 14:22 Thus tongues are a sign not for believers but for unbelievers, while prophecy is a sign not for unbelievers but for believers.
Speaking in tongues is between you and the Holy Spirit. He is the giver of gifts. (Do not grieve the Holy Spirit.)
No it isn't.
The Holy Spirit gives the gifts individually as HE wills for the building up of the church, not personal edification. See 1 Corinthians 14:1-5
And don't even bother trying to imply that if I or anyone else doesn't speak in tongues that I or they are grieving the Holy Spirit.
Amen.