A pastoral flock is NOT comprised of a wife and children. The flock is comprised of children and adults who are looking for spiritual guidance, not parenting or being a husband. And practical guidance as well as spiritual...Like Paul said, if you can't rule your own house, how are you going to rule God's??? God says 'prove it, first'...
And then the Apostles ALL
left their wives, children and families. THAT's a solution: JUST LEAVE.
THEN there are always the Judases.