That's true...But failing at the first one is a fair indication that you may fail at the second one...
NOT at all. One can change, learn and adapt.
Since the skills sets are so different, one can be a VERY good vicar, especially when one doesn't have to
*support a wife and family
*worry about children's lives, sins, problems, futures, fiends
*be concerned about affording proper education
*worry about wife's health/happiness
*deal with mortgages
*have IN-LAWS
The celibate cleric can devote 100% of his time to his
*parishioners' needs,
*the usual fund raising,
*the vicarage upkeep (painting, plumbing, gardening etc.)
*marital spats of his parishioners,
*any domestic abuse he may get wind of,
*wayward teens,
*possessions by demoniacs (I had to throw that in.)
*spiritual crises
*alcohol and drug problems
*sudden catastrophe in a parishioner's life
*counseling the despairing families, battling spouses, drug/alcohol problems, recently widowed, family deaths,
*referring problems of any kind to specialists,
ETC.
AND SO MUCH MORE that may come up. SOMETIMES the married vicar may have BOTH a parishioner and family crisis at the same time. Who gets his attention first and most?