I’m not a Catholic because there are certain Catholic teachings I don’t agree with. When I realized that, it never occurred to me to try to change the Church. All it meant was that I wasn’t Catholic. And, I’ve never had a “problem” with real Catholics, some of whom are far more spiritually advanced than I’ll ever be without some serous divine intervention.
But “cafeteria Catholics” turn my stomach. What they are is not “Catholic” - it’s moral cowardice and hypocrisy. And unfailingly it shows in other areas of their lives as well.
In the end, a person’s REAL religion is how they live their life. People who think they can bullshit God are the most deluded of all.
I think it’s a good thing that Eve Tushnet can explain to a secular audience what she’s choosing chastity. She didn’t get the a-la-carte menu. She’s eating at the Captain’s table.