“In the meantime, we in the evangelical church has a lot of work to do correcting the distorted ways we talk about sex and sexuality, especially to our youth.”
I guess that would depend on the church. Based on some churches I visited before settling into one, I’d say there are a lot more problems with evangelicals compromising on sexuality than with evangelicals promoting abstinence.
And since the surrounding society is telling girls to have sex at around 13, and to be experts by 16, there needs to be a counter message that says sex is NOT the focus of a man or woman’s life.
This sentence boggled my mind: “2. If you wait until you are married to have sex, God will reward you with mind-blowing sex and a magical wedding night.” That is NOT something I’ve ever heard preached or taught. We do not abstain from premarital sex so God will give us “mind-blowing sex and a magical wedding night”! That ranks up there with the folks teaching that we tithe so God will give us more and we’ll become rich!
We do it because it is God’s plan for a husband and wife to learn together and because we’re to make loving each other under God our objective, not “mind-blowing sex”. It makes one wonder how many other errors she has been taught about God, justification and sanctification.
Exactly - this makes the focus of the teaching “you”, not God or others. The teaching is supposed to make one think less about oneself, not reward oneself.
But many, many churches of all kinds fail in teaching just about everything. It’s only human, unfortunately.
I've heard exactly that.