That is a tactic currently in vogue. Don’t allow divorce? Then you are a hateful priest/pastor/church who is out of touch with the majority of people in the pews.
Allow it? Then how can you say anything about homosexuals since you can’t control your own people.
And if that fails, bring up that there are a lot of fat rich people in your church, and the church should force them to give up their McDoubles and Buicks For The Greater Good (tm) and stop talking about homosexuals.
In short, the people driving this really want you to stop talking about homosexuals. When I run into them in a church function (which is rare for me now, but not as rare where I used to live) I often wonder who they know is homosexual.
All denominations will eventually accept homosexuality. Not that I like this inevitable outcome. But like you said, people who know or are related to one will drive this. And with the pansexual education agenda in public schools now starting at age FIVE, it’s a predetermined outcome.