“In effect, out choices trump what God intended or predestined for us.”
Really? We are powerful enough to thwart the will of God?
“27 My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me:
28 And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.
29 My Father, which gave them me, is greater than all; and no man is able to pluck them out of my Father’s hand.”
John 10:27-29
God’s will is that we choose:
Deuteronomy 30:19
This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live
The plan (predestination) is that we be in fellowship with God.
Ephesians 4-7:
4) For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love
5) he[b] predestined us for adoption to sonship[c] through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will—
6) to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves.
7) In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace
But we can also choose to not live according to God’s will and thus separate ourselves from God.