Yes, the young men in my family have all been that way on campus too! They are in the minority and I think it is a combination of having less-roving genes and being raised under the moral example of men who likewise have less cad in them.
The holding out for Catholic marriage is probably less common, and most such marriage-material college men seem to end up in exclusive relationships with the very lucky minority of women on campus who manage to attract them. The majority of women are left scrambling in and too often falling prey to the modern hookup culture that especially favors men when both gay men and the exclusive-dater men are taken out of the equation.
Sigh.
Roving genes - Oh, I don't know. I don't think that has anything to do with it. Good examples are the important element.
Catholic marriage - I think this actually appeals to some of the more desirable young ladies. Even the atheist girlfriend found it admirable that my son's faith was so important that he would not marry someone over the issue. It intrigued her and caused her to start to study the Catholic faith.
She's still an atheist at this point. And my son broke up with her. But who knows what seeds were planted?
Dating as evangelism. LOL!
“... the very lucky minority of women on campus...”
Women have the power. They just don't recognize it. Many of my son's friends cad about (or at least enter semi-exclusive or exclusive unchaste relationships) because, well,... they can. The young ladies are willing (some are even eager). But interestingly, many of the young men are willing to have chaste relationships with young ladies, if that's what the young lady insists upon. However, the young men will generally not turn down free sex if they sense it's on offer.
My son has friends who are “doing it” with their girlfriends, and friends who are not. The ones who are “doing it” are doing so at the implicit or even explicit invitation of the young ladies.
My own sense is that many of these young people want precisely what my son has, but don't realize it, and don't think it's realistic, because they think that the members of the opposite sex want something else. The girls think the boys all want sex, and the boys think the girls want disposable relationships, and just want to be treated like men. Equality. Reproductive rights (what do you need "reproductive rights" for if you're not going to have sex??). No "gender" differences to be recognized.
It's a lot of groupthink.
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