A lot of people don’t think there’s anything wrong in the sexual consumption of other human beings. Sometimes one gets the impression that sexual consumption - or at least the possibility of it - is the only reason other people are justified in existing at all.
I know first hand the damage this stuff does to a relationship. I refuse to be an actor in someone’s movie in their head. After a while I was just “I hate you go away leave me alone I don’t care what you think or want”. It was very demeaning and I wouldn’t stand for it.