"IF" you said? LOL! What do you think my POINT is?
What could POSSIBLY be a more "negative adjective" than denying someone their own relationship with God? You think that just be cause you smile and use comfy control terminology, and use soft inclusionary words, it somehow changes your meaning? If anything, it's even more insidious. At least acknowledge your own techniques - or does it go so far as to include denying the act while acting it out?
But it's okay, I understand. Buddhadharma is inherently in everyone, and expressing itself in you in its own way. As you grow, you too will learn to embrace your own understanding of the eightfold path. It is inevitable, because it is the inescapable truth of your own nature. As you mature, external worship will naturally fall away as you go deeper into meditation, and learn to contemplate the clear light and the sounds of the inner realms as they rise and fall in your consciousness. Fear over admitting this inevitability is part of the path, and you should strive on to embrace your own true nature. After awhile, your fascination with lesser understandings and clingings to ritual religion will be seen as the juvenile and frightened graspings that they really are, and you will discard them with the laughter of maturity. Then you will accept that you always were a Buddhist, because you will find the courage to accept that the Buddhist path is all there is, all there ever was, and all there ever can be. So don't worry, I understand you still need time to face the eternal truth.
There, see? Comfy words that say your life is not your life because I know what your life with God really is, rather than what you think it is, and I will tell you what you are so you don't have to worry your little head about it.
There is no relationship with Jesus Christ for those that belittle and mock his Pilgrim Church on Earth and call it all sorts of vile names. There is salvation outside the Church for those who through not fault of their own do not know Jesus Christ.