I’ve found it’s helpful to say, “I don’t understand what you mean.”
:-)
“Beloved: sanctify Christ in your hearts. Always be ready to give an explanation for the reason of your hope, but do it with gentleness and reverence.”
“He who loves his brother abides in the light.”
The following has been a great help to me:
“Respect everyone
Be sensitive to others—they are your brothers and sisters
Try to find something good, even in the worst circumstances
Do not cast a slur on anyone
Repair any harm resulting from an uttered word
Do not provoke strife between people
Speak to everyone in the language of love
Do not vex others
Reassure others
Forgive everything
Do not hold grudges
Always be the first to extend your hand as a sign of reconciliation
Act always to your neighbors advantage
Never give a thought to what others owe you, but what you owe them
Do good things to others, as you should like them done to you
Be actively compassionate in times of suffering
Be quick to offer consolation, counsel, assistance and kindness
Share your goods
Pray for everyone.”
Written by Cardinal Stefan Wyszynski, a Polish priest who was imprisoned and suffered at the hands of the Polish Communists