Yes, she likely was the one who wrote it. Only she, her brother from KY, and grandchildren are listed as surviving members of the family. She lived in Powell, OH either near or with her mother. So it seems that she, at the very least, gave permission for the inclusion of the lesbian partner. She outed herself.
http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/dispatch/obituary.aspx?pid=163314539
No sympathy from me.
Let her “stew” in her own Filth.
If this woman felt the need to include her same-sex "spouse", then she's responsible for the consequences, and there's really no question it's a direct conflict with her employment requirements.
One thing I was curious about...3 of the grandchildren are named "Hale" (the teacher's name)...only one named "Roe" (the brother's/family name) and one other one with a completely different name...
NOT that it matters, of course! and I applaud the Catholic Teachers' Union for standing up for their principles! Rules are rules, and there's no discrimination involved here, only someone wanting an exception to the rules.