Hello PW....
Yes it hurts....I stood with a friend who for years she and her husband took their son to physicians and clinics to find help for his mental illness....he suffered terribly and so did the family.
However there was little relief for very long...she shared some of the conversations she had with her son....heartbreaking to hear how much ‘he didn’t want to be as he was’.
He died a couple years ago at 25 yr.s It was a sweet sorrow for them...they knew he was finally relieved and with the Lord fully the man he so desired to be.
caww,
It is so wonderful to know that the things we don’t understand ....God does!
Someday it will all make sense...but for now we Trust Him.