Sorry sweetie, LDS women MUST receive permission to go to the LDS heaven......that’s just the way it is.
I do not care how these women in your mormon family lived their lives, or the mormon women in my family live their lives.....in the end it their husbands and only their husbands who determine whether they go to LDS heaven or not.
So again when push comes to shove, if the LDS husband is angered over something or other and states that she is now unworthy and he will not call her name, she will do what he wants.
It is just they way it is.