[NoDRodee]

In my case, I will be tortured (supposedly) because I studied the evidence carefully (I have a four year degree in Biblical Studies), and have decided that the evidence is insufficient. That’s my crime. It’s like asking a jury to weigh the evidence, then punish them if they make a mistake. Not just punish them, but torture them without end. How does that square with love and mercy?

If I fell in love with a woman who did not love me back and refused to be with me does that make me any less loving?

Then that same woman falls in love with another man who did not love her or show mercy to her, does that make me any less loving or merciful.

Then that same woman new love abuses her and treats her in ways I told her I never would, does that make me less loving

Yet this whole time I told her I would take care of her and protect her from this torment despite her refusing me, that would make me even more loving and merciful.

But in the end she dies because she refused my offer I'm am no less loving and merciful, it's the same way with God. He even went further by send his Son to die (get abused by that other man) to take on that punishment I deserved.

[Lucas McCain]

“If I fell in love with a woman who did not love me back and refused to be with me does that make me any less loving?”

I think your analogy falls way short. If you fell in love with a woman who did not love you back, and you decided as a result to kidnap her and torture her to death, that would make you less loving. Would any reasonable person not deem you a monster?

But even that doesn’t adequately state the case because at least when she dies, you can hurt her no more. The Biblical God tortures forever and ever without end.