Clearly your experiences are the exception, not the norm.
I have, many times, had Protestant “friends” actively try to convert me. Many times. And some Catholic friends of mine have likewise experiences. One friend, a Catholic female, went to her boyfriend’s Protestant church (why on earth she did this I don’t know) only to find it was a set-up. After everyone was seated, they all surrounded her, basically cornering her, and hammered the Catholic Church with lies & outright distiruons. Thank God she left & never looked back.
I could go on with many examples from my own life & the lives of friends. I’m not sure where you’re coming from, but your experiences are unique.
I would consider such behaviour completely unacceptable. However, I would disagree with your contention that my experience of not experiencing active anti-Catholicism is "unique" (as in "an exception to th rule"). Rather, I would hope that the unfortunate experience of your friend is the exception rather than the rule.