The first problem here is lumping all “Calvinists” in one bag. There are many degrees of Calvinism, the fatalistic perspective/anti-Israel perspective being on the fringe.
The Reformed Baptist churches are growing (they are Calvinists) while the SBC is shrinking, and they see this as a threat.
I have never been a part of any denomination and worked among believers of all stripes and colors, but spent more time amongst SBC than any single group. For them to call Calvinists arrogant is incredible, as I’ve found many SBC pastors to be most arrogant.
The problem is fairly simple: man’s mind cannot comprehend the apparently conflicting truth of scripture: God is sovereign, man is reponsible.
So to reconcile not being able to comprehend one aspect of God, His truth, man camps out on one side or the other.
Either side to an extreme is wrong. Period.
(How’s that for arrogance???????)
By the way, Charles Spurgeon boasted that he indeed was a Calvinist while the Baptists in England fought against what was referred to as ultra-Calvinism - the extreme......
It's actually referred to as Hyper-Calvinism; and Spurgeon was no Hyper-Calvinist. He did not believe in predestination as applied to all people. He believed that God desires that all men be saved; and not that God predestined each particular individual to either Heaven or Hell.