It was and is up to the man (Adam/then Christ) both times once for the fall and then for the salvation. We Agree- I never suggested otherwise.
It doesn’t change the fact that there was a woman behind it both times - Eve for the fall and Mary for the redemption. These are facts and I love God the Father’s sense of logic and justice!!!
We are sort of talking about two different things - Sin entered when the man ate - the gates of heaven were opened when the Son of Man made the perfect sacrifice on the cross. Of Course - no one is disputing this whatsoever.
Yet - the parallel between Eve offering the fruit and then Mary cancelling her out by saying yes is there. It just is. Why is this a bad thing?
Because there is no Scriptural support for it and to teach it as fact as if there is, is wrong.
It's simply a justification for the elevating or Mary to a position that she does not hold.
Anyone can make up anything and find some Scripture to support it somehow, and that is not how church teaching and doctrine should be handled.
It should be based on facts presented clearly in Scripture. Making a connection that is not acknowledged IN Scripture by the those inspired to write it, is running into error. That's how false teachings get started and are promulgated.
Mary was nothing more than the virgin chosen to carry the Christ child. She plays no other role in the redemption of mankind.