I just kind of scanned your post and have not read all the replies, but have you prayed to the Holy Spirit for guidance? I would just continuously ask our Blessed Lord to lead you where He wants you to go. His way is perfect after all :)
God bless you on your journey, you will be in our prayers.
does the Holy Spirit lead someone differently in the 21st century, than He did in the 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, 7th, 8th, 9th, etc. etc centuries??
i think not, God is not the author of confusion.