One example:
Recipients of any commodities provided through the bishop are provided with opportunities to work, to the extent of their ability, in return for the items they receive. Assignments may include cleaning a meetinghouse or being of service to someone else who needs help. This gives the recipients a sense of ownership and accomplishment as well as an opportunity to give back.
The link: http://lds.org/liahona/2009/02/news-of-the-church?lang=eng
I don’t have a problem with that necessarily. For instannce I have a friend who has some issues for 20 years and most of the time when he asks for something it is of so little consequence I just say take it. What do I care if he takes a bag of razors, bar soap and hair care? That’s why I have so much stored. My rainy that may come and the rainy days of others are met by my stores of food and sundries.
However, when he wants more than that he’s got a job to do and that’s they way it is. Why? Because he needs to own what he is asking for and trade money or time for it. Time is something he has until he grows up and figures out what money does for you.
That’s way different than your Aunt and Uncle. People should have been going to help fill their needs and comfort them with zero expectation of being repaid.
We call it charity for a reason. It’s giving, thoughtfully on the one hand and without thought on the other with no strings or expectations.
Otherwise it’s not a gift but a debt and that only compounds the problem.