Yep. As I said, she could have chosen a much better illustration. While the choice was in poor taste I don't think the intent was to offend but rather was not well thought out. However, I try to keep a default mode of giving others the benefit of the doubt.
At the risk of offense, I believe Mary was a brave and obedient child. She answered God's call and became the vessel through which God entered the world so He could take on our sin and pay our debt. She did this even though she would expect Joseph to publicly condemn her.
Nobody seems to notice God's wisdom in choosing Joseph as Jesus' earthly father. Instead of publicly humiliating her, he intended to put her aside quietly (wouldn't you if your "Virgin bride" was suddenly pregnant). He too was obedient when the Angel of the Lord spoke to him and confirmed she was a virgin and carried the Messiah. Let's be real, Joseph faced humiliation by those who would mock him and claim she was unfaithful.
While Joseph and Mary were both brave and obedient, neither of them are the equal of Jesus.
You’re right. And along the lines of your post, I refuse to believe that God “rewarded” Joseph’s obedience by condemning him to have a wife who he was not allowed to touch (So she could remain a perpetual virgin), and further condemning him to remaining childless.