If a wife can't be bothered to keep her man happy, that means she doesn't love him any more and the marriage is dead. Note that I say "can't be bothered" rather than "don't feel up to it because of illness"In my post #99:
OK, here's my point: I consider each party in a marriage to have an obligation to keep each other sexually happy. Do you agree or disagree?In a marriage, do you think either party has any obligation to provide anything to their spouse? If so, why? If not, why not?
Yes, a spouse has an obligation to provide marital relations. But each should be sensitive to the other’s emotional and physical condition. Sometimes a spouse may engage in sex when s/he doesn’t really feel like it to be a good spouse, or a spouse who really wants sex may restrain him or herself knowing the other is not in the mood or in a condition to provide the “sexual happiness”. Husbands can be getting sick, overworked, or thinking about serious problems and not be in the mood too.
Humans are not animals, and marriage is much more than sex.