So if it was such that God wanted Mary to be honored for perpetual virginity, Jesus could have taught that about His mother instead of
Luk 11:27 ¶ And it came to pass, as he spake these things, a certain woman of the company lifted up her voice, and said unto him, Blessed [is] the womb that bare thee, and the paps which thou hast sucked.
Luk 11:28 But he said, Yea rather, blessed [are] they that hear the word of God, and keep it
Now, that is the story as it is told in the Bible
What I was speaking of was why Joseph never wanted to have sexual relations with Mary..Ohh he was an old man, he married because he was a widower and needed a mother for his children etc etc..
People seem to think that it makes sense to believe that Joseph and Mary had a "normal marriage" after the Nativity of our Lord, but the truth is that the Child removed any possibility of normal.
Why? Jesus was to be raised as any Jewish child was to be raised..He called himself the Son of Man.. or do you not believe that Jesus was FULLY MAN as well as FULLY GOD.. those were not roses in his diapers.. Jesus was to have a fully human experience on this earth, and that would have included a mother and a father that expressed their love physically , that had disagreements at times.. Parents that were fully human ..Jesus was to be tempted just as we are..so that would have to include some of the things that tempted us about our families
I have seen some of the old manuscripts reproduced that told stories of Jesus healing birds and exhibiting supernatural powers.. Silliness from some of the early church
St. Joseph and the Blessed Mother had intimate roles in the most incredible and unique event in the history of the world, having a normal life simply was not a viable option for them.
Joseph was a carpenter , Mary was a wife and mother.. simple and ordinary lives
But here is what we DO know, there is NOTHING that suggests that ANYONE other than Jesus Christ was born of Mary and the FACT that He entrusted her care to Saint John when He was on the Cross would indicate that she had no other children because it would have been unnecessary if she had other sons.
Whence hath THIS man this wisdom, and these mighty works? Is not this the carpenter's son? Is not his mother called Mary? and his brethren, James, and Joses, and Simon, and Judas? And his sisters, are they not ALL with us?" (Matt. 13:54-56)
John 2:12. Christ went to Capernaum, accompanied by "His mother, and His brethren, AND HIS DISCIPLES."
Galatians 1:18-19, Paul mentioned having seen not only Peter, but also James the Lord's brother in Jerusalem. We know that Paul was speaking of a brother in the flesh. If he had been speaking of a spiritual brother -- a brother in the faith -- he certainly would have included Peter among Christ's spiritual brethren. But he did not!
As to why Jesus sought Johns care of His mother may be found in this prophecy
Psalm 69:8 "I am become a stranger unto MY BRETHREN, and an alien unto MY MOTHER'S CHILDREN.
We know that His siblings thought Jesus had lost His mind.. and came to get Him away from a crowd..
Once again this has no impact on our salvation.. it is only important if one makes a doctrine of faith out of it..then men are being asked to accept as a truth something that has no sure infallible foundation..
Saints James and Jude and others may have been the children of Saint Joseph from a previous marriage, they may have been cousins raised by the Holy Family, but there is NOTHING to suggest that they were born to the Blessed Mother.
I am so glad that I was not let down, here is one of those fables meant to explain other children for which there is no foundation..
Joseph loved Mary, he was not "sinless" he would have desired to have a physical relationship with her ..no matter how old he was or if he had other children.. for her to withhold that would have been a sin, a violation of their covenant.. this causes a problem for a sinless Mary
Even if he were sinless, it would have been normal for him to want normal relations with his wife. Sex between a legally married husband and wife is NOT a sin. Sex was God's idea from the beginning. Why would He demand that Mary and Joseph abstain? How would that make them more special or holy than the rest of humanity?
The doctrine of the perpetual virginity of Mary is rife with problems from the start.