You’re being too cryptic. And it’s late. Could you just answer all at once? I didn’t understand what you’re saying one of the twins doesn’t have enough of.
Ok, I’ll attempt to explain what I mean here. It’s not going to satisfy you I think. It wouldn’t surprise me if you found it not responsive to the question. But it’s how I’m thinking about it now, and I’m trying to be responsive.
Bear in mind, I’m very wary about generalizing about the path toward God. The end point is the same, the specifics are individual.
Why I’m not attributing it to a measure or lack of measure of grace will become evident.
I believe everyone is drawn toward God, toward love. They may not know it’s God, a great many don’t, they may think it’s just something in one person, they may confuse it with lust. Some confuse it for awe or nature. Perhaps most are not aware of even being drawn. But something is lacking, something is causing unease, often dis-ease - something is lacking and conscious of it at the time or not, they seek it.
It is so subtle, resistant to self, it can spark a reaction of rejection from frustration. Screw it, it’s a useless irritation, I’ll just kill it off. Some choose evil out of anger, frustration, or just to feel - something.
But the draw of God’s love, the desire for conscious contact with God, is foundational to our being, He is our being, and in large measure our lives center around reacting to it: chasing it, running from it, feeding it or starving it.
However it’s not something we can grasp, only something we can allow to grasp us. Like trying to grab water, the more you try the more mess you make of it.
Finally to my answer. And it’s not the answer to what makes those who chose differently choose differently. It’s what may be most similar about them. They have had enough of trying to possess what can’t be possessed, enough of the dis-ease, the lack of real peace, of being without God, with only our self, disconnected from the source of our being.
They surrender. Either in an attitude of giving up or one of trust, they let go of trying to figure it out, to grasp it, to achieve it. They surrender to it.
The old time religion way of putting this theory is: “the only way to win is to surrender.”
Sorry, that’s the best I can do right now in generalizing about the subject. And, again, I’m not at all sure it can be generalized about, I do believe this is a common enough similarity in a reasonably large group of individual humans.