You will have to live on how I answer. An NO MANIPULATION on your part will change it. Manipulation is from the pit - a satanic tactic.
Receive the HOLY SPIRIT and read/meditate God’s Word. Obsession with man demonstrates weakness.
Oddly, I don't agree that asking a question and seeking the reply is manipulation.
Now, if I threw a fit about it, that I could see as an attempt at manipulation. Likely it wouldn't work because it would be a pretty obvious attempt.