My parents didn’t have a High Mass wedding, and I don’t feel a shred of envy about it. They were married three years before they had me. I’m just happy as can be that they met each other and got married!
The Solemn High Nuptial Mass was associated with the Tridentine Rite, which pretty much disappeared after 1964 and didn’t really make a comeback until the 1990’s, when Pope John Paul’s indult starting kicking in and more Latin Masses became available. The Novus Ordo liturgy, which is the typical Mass that most Catholics attend, does not normally have a High Mass for weddings. I’ve never heard of one, and I’ve attended numerous Catholic weddings. It’s always a Low Mass. Now, there might be a singer and/or choir, and there is almost always music involved. Did you mean perhaps that there was a choir, and you mistakenly thought it was a “High Mass”?
Or were you fortunate enough to really attend a Latin High Nuptial Mass?
Were these weddings you attended before 1964? In that case, you would have had the Tridentine rite in Latin, and there certainly could have been a High Mass. But even back then, they were not common.
Why would I think it was a high mass? I had no idea what a high mass was. I was told these were high masses by the brides, the mothers of the bride, the mothers of the groom and/or the priests officiating.
I had attended mass with friends over the years and these wedding ceremonies were much more elaborate than anything I had ever seen, even for a RC church. They lasted well over an hour.
I have no reason to doubt what these Roman Catholics told me about their own weddings. If they were lying, they were lying to hundreds of people, most of them Roman Catholic.
And these weddings were a lot more recent than 1964.