Based on all the prayers to Mary that I've read, that is exactly what the Catholic church sees her as, the one who is doing the dispensing, and that which she is dispensing is the grace itself, not the One who dispenses grace. Any brief perusal of prayers to Mary that anyone can find online, bear that out.
I stand with you on that. It is certainly how it looks from here.
However, I trust that Dawg is doing his best, and is trying to explain things honestly, as he sees them, too.
Paul was given the Dispensation of Grace by revelation from Jesus Christ. Does that mean Paul is the dispenser of grace and that we should therefore be praying to Paul, who dispenses this grace? Of course NOT! Nor more that because Mary was full of grace someone should be praying to her to dispense her grace to them.
How does the Word get so twisted that this could even be considered?
Jesus did not just come physically through Mary but by means of the consent of her will and her faith as noted above. In other words because of Marys consent and her faith and consent and her bringing Jesus to the world Mary is the mediatrix or channel of All Grace as embodied in the Person of her Son, Jesus. Without her consent and faith we would not have our Saviour come into the world. Also since Mary received Jesus from the Father, carried Him in her womb and finally at Cana gave Him to the world, she is the dispenser of All Grace, Jesus Christ and therefore she is also the dispenser of every individual grace.
http://www.marytruth.ca/MediatrixAllGrace.htm
This assumes a few things..
1) that Mary was ever asked to consent
2) That if her consent was necessary, and she said no, Jesus would not have been born
3) That SHE had to give Him to the world..
4) That Cana was about HER
That some how though all these assumptions she now handles the grace department in Heaven
The Catholic church contradicts it self so often that Catholics just miss it or just do not see it
On one hand Mary dispenses all grace.. on the other It is thr grace of the Holy Spirit that leads to conviction of sin and justification
on one hand Mary lived a sinless life on the other only Jesus could keep the law perfectly (be sinless)
The church can not keep it's story straight anymore, Mariology has messed it all up