Posted on 06/11/2010 5:28:45 AM PDT by markomalley
I agree. If you are not prepared to spend the rest of your life with someone, you probably should not be having sex with them.
My husband had us marry on New Year’s Day so he could remember the date. Guess which one of us has forgotten the date. In my defense, it’s because I was working New Years Eve for the last few years and was just so tired.
Problem is teenagers don’t think it through the same way that adults do. In high school we had a Human Relations course (which I honestly think should have been a requirement course instead of Sex Ed., because it covered so many things). A couple from Crisis Pregnancy Center spoke and made mention that who the teens were currently dating was not necessarily their future spouse. Two of the students couldn’t fathom this idea.
I and my wife are too, but you won't catch either of us in spandex anymore ;)
“Do these pants make my butt look big?”
“No, honey, it’s your fat ass that makes your butt look big.”
Bump for later
I married my HS sweetheart right after graduation. She was not pregnant although we did engage in premarital sex every chance we got. Our first child was born when we were 21, our second 3 years later. The marriage lasted another 12 years.
The happiness? Not so much. What I think kids do not understand is that people grow, change and mature. That cute lil gal you think you love and will be faithful to you today is going to turn into the biggest whore within a 50 mile radius in short order. If you marry her and have kids, then you are stuck living with the biggest whore within a 50 miles radius.
I left when my girls were 15 and 12. They asked me to. They said that they were losing respect for me because they knew what their mother was and knew that I knew and stayed anyway.
Today my girls and I have a much better relationship but until last year I had some real trust issues when it came to women. I sought counseling at church in order to deal with it and only then would I propose to my girlfriend.
And to think if I had listened to my mother when I was 17 and just kept “it” in my pants, I would have avoided a lot of grief. Of course I wouldn’t have had my girls so there was good and bad in there.
Guys who get laid on a very regular basis don’t want to go out for a drink with their buddies. They also communicate much better when they aren’t worried about getting sex. They also help out around the house a lot more.
“Let’s see, do I want to stop for a drink or go home and get laid? That’s a tough choice.”
“If you read the letters to Dr. Laura, it appears that women who decide to give their husbands lots of sex are much happier with their marriages. All of a sudden, their huisbands take out the trash, help in the kitchen and with the kids, etc.”
GO SAY IT ON THE MOUNTAIN!
It’s still a package deal.
Without love, a marriage is doomed from the start.
No poetic liscense adding to the statement.
Ageeing with yourself when your own opinion isn’t based on the facts means you haven’t actually learned anything.
You are not always right even though you think you are.
“Without love, a marriage is doomed from the start.”
While I wish you the very best, I do believe that the above statement is untrue. Arranged marriages have a very high success rate. This is because the parents who arrange such marriages understand that background, traditions, religious affiliations, values, and family members of the intended will affect the success of a union more than passion.
Love becomes a decision to be selfless, and to lay down one’s life for the object(s). Sooner or later this must be done for the ultimate success of the marriage, such that love results from shared experiences and resolution of conflicts, and from the sacrifices made during the course of a life lived together.
“While I wish you the very best, I do believe that the above statement is untrue.”
Thank you for the well wishes.
“Arranged marriages have a very high success rate”
The vast majority of arranged marriages take place in muslim nations. Women are property.
This is not a good thing.
Thanks for sharing. I’ve been wondering if anyone gets anything from going to counseling for things like that. I’m a bit stuck on that issue myself and just quit dating altogether. Best wishes for much happiness!
Sorry, my third, and youngest, son was just snapped up by a cute little blonde jewel. They are both lucky.
But keep looking, they are out there and just as frustrated as you are.
Nam Vet
We're all taken...
LOL - “Happy anniversary, I bought you a treadmill”
When we are out and about; my wife will elbow me in the ribs to DRAW my attention to a well-endowed woman.
In the end; it works to her benefit...she's not stupid. :-)
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