My own Church has quietly let it be known to its members that while the Synod may go that way, our Church will not be endorsing or promoting gay/lesbian behavior. They are welcome to worship, and hopefully see the error of their ways...but lead? No, they will not be held up as examples by our congregation. If, at some point in the future, the Synod pushes us on this, they'll probably loose another Church.
I would think most churches would feel the way yours does. It’s truly a sad day when you see men pushing an agenda on the church that is not of God.