It’s best not to diagnose and counsel by internet.
As you and the rabid cliques have done with me?
. . . fascinating . . .
lots of assumptions and guesstimates are hazardous . . .
as are lots of speculations.
Hereon, folks often disclose things quite candidly. Sometimes they forget what they’ve disclosed.
Folks should always take anything anyone says to THE LORD FOR CONFIRMATION OR DISCARDING.
I’ve said that to clients for 30+ years as well as to friends, church members and students.