Grow up Geek,
I love my child, but if he is disobedient, he’d better have a modicum of ‘fear’ about him. Does that mean that I am not ‘loving’? It does not.
You, unfortunately do not seem to have read the Bible, and further more, you seem to wish to construct your own ‘fuzzy-bunny’ version of God that you can be comfortable with. You are not in a position to construct ANY god, much less change the God that is. As I said before, He is as He is.