But the words, the context...
An overseer MUST be a husband of one wife... not should be, may be, could be, it would be nice if...
I really think that there is a need for a man to be with a woman,and not just for the sex. God made Eve for Adam even though Adam was walking day by day with God. God said it is not good for man to be alone, and I have to agree. Countless times my wife has reminded, encouraged, comforted, consoled, and otherwise been there for me when I needed her. She has been a gift from God. To me. Together we make quite a formidable pair, working in the church. I would be a lot less complete without her. Woman is God’s gift to man, and we should all rejoice in that. To deny someone THIS gift in order to do God’s work is, in my not so humble opinion, the wrong thing to do.
I challenge you to ask any parish priest if he feels alone. We don't call him 'Father' for nothing. My pastor's great grandfather was a married priest (Maronite Catholic Church) but the great-grandson chose celibacy. In Lebanon, the seat of the Maronite Catholic Church, half of the priests are married but, according to the Patriarch (Cardinal Sfeir), married priests solve one problem while creating a new one. It is a challenge to match a married priest to a parish, especially in contemporary society, when the priest depends on the parish for his total support. That includes lodging, education, medical & dental insurance for him, the wife and children. It is not uncommon in these parishes with married priests for the parishioners to scrutinize the lifestyle of the priest and his family - knowing full well that they are footing the bill. If the priest's wife shows up at church with a fine coat while the parishioner's wives are wearing something more tattered, the contributions take a big dip.
For this reason, only the celibate Maronite priests are sent overseas to minister to small parishes with big demands. Our pastor is much loved and on the receiving end of many invites to dinners and social events. But first and foremost for him is his ministry to us as pastor and guide. The most frustrating aspect of parish life for him is when his parishioners shun the Sacrament of Reconciliation or fail to show up for Mass on Sundays.
He is perfectly content with his chosen life which is obviously not the one you were intended to have.