Excellent observations.
As I’ve said many times, there was certainly blame on all sides and I am happy to discuss what happened (call me strange, but medieval European history is probably my favorite subject). However, the discussion must be based in VERIFIABLE FACTS, not propaganda from some anti-Catholic book.
While we do not consider it civilized today, up until a couple hundred years ago, wars were the normal method of settling political disputes.
It and the history of the Early Church are some of my favorite winter reading!
We've seen the methods of war in the 20c; the 21c, from what we've seen so far is not going to be a badminton match either. I don't think we are in any position to consider what is and what is not civilized.