Your posts are getting more and more churlish, Judith Anne.
Calm down. No one is going to hurt you. Put the knife down. Step away from the punch bowl. Release the cat.
Again with the insulting personal remarks, and again with no answers to questions. What would Calvin say to the mother of a dying child? "If you are both elect, you'll see your child in heaven. If not, your child will go to hell, and you will go to heaven as one of the elect. If neither of you are elect, you'll see your child in hell."
Is that about it?
No one knows who is reading this, who may be hurt, who may suffer.
And so far, there is no question to the problem of how to comfort the mother of the dying child—or wife of the dying man....
I have a hunch that most Calvinists drink a lot. What else is there to do? If one is elect, what difference does it make? If not, what difference does it make? A living death....