Satan chose too.
God doesn’t set His heart on someone with the command, “This guy is going to love me, or else.”
Even the angels get to choose.
Your view of theology is dangerously flawed. God doesn’t tag people with ‘saved’ or ‘condemned’ before they leave the womb. He may have a plan for each one of us, but its just a plan.
God HAS the power to cut through all that and MAKE something happen. That’s his choice too.
No choice, no love.
"Just a plan?" God's plan for His creation, decreed from before the foundation of the world, is "just a plan?"
"Declaring the end from the beginning, and from ancient times the things that are not yet done, saying, My counsel shall stand, and I will do all my pleasure." -- Isaiah 46:10
God's plan is what is, one way or another.
Hath not the potter power over the clay, of the same lump to make one vessel unto honour, and another unto dishonour?" -- Romans 9:20-21"Nay but, O man, who art thou that repliest against God? Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it, Why hast thou made me thus?
No choice, no love.
1) Where does it say that in Scripture? Hallmark, yes. The Bible, no.
2) Fallen man will always "choose" unrighteousness unless and until God gives him a new heart, new eyes, new ears and a renewed mind in order for him to know and believe in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior.
Read "Bondage of the Will" by Luther. Here's a short, abridged version online...
It will help you understand whose will is sovereign and whose will has been mercifully over-ridden by the gift of unmerited, unearned, free grace.
"For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure." -- Philippians 2:13