God only sees those who are in obedience to Him, and those who are not. None of our churches is perfect, but it is the duty of every follower of Christ to maintain unity and love within the body, and to correct and rebuke our brethren when we stray from sound teaching.
As to the issue of gay ordination, I think people often confuse loving people, with telling them that what they do is ‘ok’.
A person who is a practicing homosexual is living in direct opposition to the Word of the bible. Absolutely, we should love and welcome homosexuals into our churches, but this does not mean we change what God teaches us to suit the itching ears and fashions of the world.
People would not allow an alchoholic to head AA. Similarly, a church should not be lead by an unrepentant person.