Indeed, Jo, the Bible is full of the message that God came to save the world (all), but all will not be saved because mankind loves wickedness more than God. Our choice.
Just as it is the choice of the Reformers to ignore all those parts of the Bible you posted, so they can hold on to their heresy.
You're half right. Mankind loves wickedness more than God. And the only thing that will change that fact is God's regeneration of the sinner's will to desire Him instead of sin, and God's renewal of the sinnner's mind to comprehend the truth of Christ risen.
Do you believe God ordained His family from before the foundation of the world, or is He just adding to it as time goes by and men decide for themselves to be reconciled to Christ?