Because mutual love is a two-way street. It has to be free and it has to come from both hearts. It cannot be pre-programmed, or forced. Just because I love a girl before she meets me doesn't mean she has to love me once she does meet me! The fact that I lover her first does not oblige her to love me. Like I said, it's absurd.
I love cookies, but they don’t love me :>)
Actually, we CAN’T love God until he loves us by giving us his grace. No one seeks God, no one loves God, without him loving us first.