Let me cheer you up a little.
My Father-in-law passed away in March this year. He had a stroke in Nov. 05 and came to live with us after the stroke. In his last year and a half he was able to walk with a walker and communicate, but he did slowly deteriorate.
Now the part that will cheer you up.
He was EO, but when he came to live with us I kept asking if he would like to go to church with us at Moody Church. After about a month he started coming. After another month or so he explained how much he enjoyed listening to Pastor Lutzer. Just before he died, my wife asked him if he knew the LORD as his personal Saviour. He said he did now and prayed with my wife.
I'm sorry he's gone, but I rejoice in knowing he had come into a personal relationship with the LORD. Now my wife is trying to explain to her brother why their dad enjoyed going to church. When they were growing up it was more like work for them.
The LORD works in ways we don't understand. When we are in the middle of a tragedy we don't see the good that will come of it. You had a very tough couple of months, but the LORD is at work and something good is coming out of it. You may not see it, but it is!
My father-in-law was the same way. Lutheran, but never went. Diagnosed with cancer in August 4 years ago. A 6 months before he died, I asked him about his faith, salvation, etc. He wasn’t sure of any of it. After prayer and discussion, a month before he died, he declared belief.