Jesus saith to her: Woman, what is that to me and to thee? my hour is not yet come. His mother saith to the waiters: Whatsoever he shall say to you, do ye.He does not single her out as someone who should not be concerned with His work. Rather, He says that He himself is not of the mind to begin His ministry. There is no rebuke.
Second, the Mother of God knows ahead of time that the miracle will be forthcoming at her request, as she instructs the waiter to obey Christ.
This sets up the model where the Mother of God is attentive to our needs and asks Christ with confidence that His grace be directed at us.
When will that reference to Pope Leo be coming?
He says that He himself is not of the mind
This is massively unbiblical. Jesus said that he came to do the Father's will, not his own. Therefore, no one but the Father could give him directions.
This actually sets up the model for believers to listen to Jesus and no other. In other words, do as He says, not as I said. You are reading Mary's mind and ascribing to scripture inferences that are neither cited nor backed up by corraborating scripture.